Shabbos Meals

I work for a company that pays homage to something called standard work. It is like halacha for them. It prevents anyone from deviating or getting too creative without permission. I'm not too hip on standard work. I prefer the "un"standard work. My husband told me he wanted to implement standard shabbos meals, standard songs (sung at the same time) and standard serving of the food. Basically he wants to standardize the shabbos seudah.  This is not to create discomfort but rather to create a standard. So I think about this. For some a standard creates energy (like a marching band or an army). There is a sense of energy gained from the standardization. For others, it can be stifling. I hesitate, but agree. No it is not emotional suicide. No he is not a tyrant. In fact, he is quite loving. OK, well sometimes it feels like a bearhug where you can't breathe too well:) But Truthfully, it doesn't matter to me. I only hesitate in that I want my guests to feel comfortable. My daughter revolts, but sees me compromise. I wonder if that is good for her or not. I succumb for the sake of peace (and love). I am like Israel giving back a piece yet growing stronger. These processes simply do not define me.  I am free and flowing...and my presence defines me, not the ritual. Truth is, this is one of those times  that its hard for me, but that doesn't mean it shouldn't be done. Maybe that says more about me than my husband? Anyway, this past week, we tried it. The jury is still out. I miss my pretty salad bowl, but I think the guests enjoyed themselves. All is good.